Consider "For the woman, the man is a means: the end is always the child," by Friedrich Nietzsche. I was reading Nietzsche this morning when I came across this line and I realized Nietzsche wasn't too far off in his thinking this and he would be even more convinced of this if he was living with us today. Think of how many children today are born without knowing their father, either because of "accidental" pregnancy or by artificial insemination; most out-of-wedlock pregnancies are not unplanned.
From the article "Rejecting men, embracing children" by Helen Alvare':
"The recent news of the nearly 40% out of wedlock birth rate in the United States should pretty much rock our world as citizens and as Catholics. According to the Centers for Disease Control report, this means 1.7 million children were born to unmarried mothers in 2007, a figure 250% greater than the number reported in 1980"
What is the cause? She writes:
"First, the researchers concluded that the majority of children born to lone mothers could not correctly be deemed “unplanned.” Rather, many were planned or actively sought. And the majority were somewhere in the middle between planned and unplanned. In other words, many of these very young couples (it was not uncommon for the mothers to be 14 or 15 years old) explicitly or implicitly wanted a baby in their lives. Their reasons by and large would be familiar to anyone who has ever hoped for a child. They wanted someone who was an extension of their beloved, a piece of him or her. They wanted to love another person deeply."
The father? Nah, leave him out. He's not important is he? If women aren't using men as a means to an end, the end being children, then could it be for praise? Controversial it may be, but Ann Coulter recently made this very point:
"The mainstream media and Hollywood studios are constantly issuing propaganda about the joys and triumphs of single mothers. Thus, for example, the noted scientific periodical Us Weekly celebrated single motherhood with an article titled "The New Single Moms and How They Do It," which delusionally proclaimed that the 'sisters are doing it for themselves.'"
I know not every woman uses a man as a means to a child, but I also must admit Nietzsche wasn't radical in thinking such a thing. Is the thinking of a woman wanting a child without a man radical thinking? I wouldn't argue against the thought, nor should you because you need very strong arguments to prove otherwise.
Controversial for his arguments against single-motherhood, Wintery Knight details why single-motherhood is harmful and why traditional marriage is fruitful in this post on the Casey Anthony trial (you'll also find a cornucopia of other resources). Agree with him, hate him, WK has heard it all.
That is...all very disturbing to say the least.
ReplyDeleteOh wow, this post is very interesting. I have even noticed really good Christian women focusing more on weddings and baby pictures, and in complete denial about what men are like and what they want out of marriage. The easiest way to separate the good and bad women is to give them Dr. Laura's Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and then demand a 3000 word essay on it. You have to make them read and write about men so that you at least know they understand us.
ReplyDeleteWhat's scary is when even the good men are impacted by this. Suppose we do everything right, get good jobs and choose loving wives who understand us. We still have to pay taxes for all the welfare paid to single mothers, and the children they raise coast the state more money and causes social problems like crime and more teen pregnancy.
ReplyDelete@ WK: "We still have to pay taxes for all the welfare paid to single mothers, and the children they raise coast the state more money and causes social problems like crime and more teen pregnancy."
ReplyDeleteA major consequence of poor choices to say the least. Kant comes to mind, "Live your life as though your every act were to become a universal law."